Bridal DeSTRESSification

MARCH.For all you ladies with late spring/early summer weddings...you are chompin at the bit to get stuff done.You can finally start putting your orders in...which you may not have decided on yet???I only know this because I may or may not have recently, as in today, gave a pep talk to a bride who was going through what I call "Wedding Syllabus Shock". Up til now, you've had ideas, ideas, ideas. Now it's time to get it D.O.N.E.and you're freakin out.Well, if you're like me...this time last year, I was planning a big wedding on a tight budget, going to school full-time, working part-time, and flipping my house/future home on a short deadline with my fiance who had a broken arm. NO? Well, we all have our own stressing stories. First and foremost you need to remember that God will never give you more than you can handle. He has given you you're situation and your future spouse, because he knows that that is the mix that works for you and you can handle.BUT...unfortunately we are humans and girls.So here are some tips that worked for me for Bridal Destressing. (I also happen to be a health promotion major so that's handy) :


*Oh...and I added some pics that was not shown on facebook...you are not alone.


1. PRAY.Tell everyone to pray for you.

2. JUST DO IT. I am a chronic brain-stormer with 0 action. Everytime you have an idea, follow it up by asking yourself when you are going to do it."Later" is not an answer. It can happen later, but literally write down on the pocket calendar in your purse what day you will do it. This will help MAJORLY.


3.Set planned times aside that are just FUN. I always am motivated best by incentives!Make goals!That way you can have things accomplished and feel good while having fun. EX: my roommate and I would have a night in, watch a movie and eat chili's chips, salsa, and ranch :).Don't have time?? Oh yes you do, because if you don't, I promise you WILL snap.So please, save everyone else from that experience.

4.TANNING & WORKING OUT! I know you are all doing one or another, but seriously.it will rock your world. Doctors orders: a 2-3 times a week: 30 min to 90 minutes of tanning and some simple work out (running,jogging, walking, jump rope, my choice: eliptical :))....Unless if you already have a work out plan, DO not exceed more than this, you will have an excuse that "you don't have time".This releases a TON of endorphins, making you happy and giving you energy to kick wedding planning butt!


5.EAT HEALTHY! At least get your fill of fresh fruit and veggies!! They are packed full of nutrients and vitamins that provide energy!


6. SLEEP PROPERLY! Just go to bed, please.No one wants a grouchy bride or fiancee.


7. TALK IT THROUGH!! 1)never stop communicating constantly with the primary person you are planning with (EX: Mom). always stay on the same page. 2) When you feel accomplished, call a friend up and let them know everything you got done!! 3) Have a few different people that you can call, that will bear with you as you go on and on about things you need to get done. Talking about it locks it in your brain, and the other person can help you think stuff through.

8. DATE: If you need one, tell you're fiance. Don't let him play the guessing game (that goes for anything!). Allow him to plan a stress free night!

9. SHOP for honeymoon clothes! It's so much more fun than shopping for the perfect color and width ribbon for the pew bows.AND you are getting something done!

*My Camp Girlfriends helped me pick out this shirt...yes this is in mexico!

10.  Just REMEMBER: In the End...

YOU WILL BE MARRIED!!!!!

OK! What have you done?!? What did you do?!? What have you heard?!?...I think I've covered all readers :)

"Take My Love Language"

  

     Have you ever read the book "The Five Love Languages" by Gary Chapman? I really hope you have, because I have not and I need some questions answered. hahahah :) I know enough to know...that the languages are: words of affirmation, quality time, receiving gifts, acts of service, and physical touch. Have you and your significant other ever figured out your (and their) love language?? It's something I never really thought about and didn't take seriously (probably because I never took time to read the book, ha.) until lately. While we were dating throughout high school, I saw every love language as an intricate part of a dating relationship. You were suppose to have everything! Thats just how it is. I mean think about it. In a movie, "Romeo" treks across the land in a storm to get to "Juliet", ditching his important meeting with his boss (or high school championship football game-depending on what moving you're watching)...(acts of service), He than spouts of some mushy-gushy love speech holding roses (words of affirmation AND receiving gifts), then he lays a fat 'ole big kiss on her (Physical touch), then they live "Happily Ever After" (i'm gonna go with quality time for this one.haha.) THEN came engagement...still hadn't even crossed my mind that "love languages" could affect our relationship, but I was definitely learning that this whole married forever thing was going to take a lot more work than occasional super romantic moments.For the last almost 9 months we've been trying to explain to each other what works for us as an individual person.What I do when I'm angry, or hurt, or stressed. What little things he can do to ease it. 95% of the time it just didn't make sense to him (Visa-Versa by the way). We were constantly trying to solve the other persons problems or make them feel good with the way WE like it done.Then one day... literally 2 weeks ago.We were in the car with his family and his father randomly started asking what are love languages are. Of course David has to crack a joke.This is what he said (at first)..."Girls are like a 5 lane highway.They need and want every love language.But They only ever have one lane open, all the others are full.So you guess which one you should go with and Pray it's right." I wonder if that has anything to do with our frequent mood changes?!??Hahahaha!! (I thought it was hilarious...but I think he's the funniest person alive, so that could explain it.ha.)...I think us ladies have all had moments where we can attest that that is kinda true, or at least we make it seem that way.We only want to be complemented when we know we look good, not when we're in our fat pants with the messiest of messy buns atop our head.at least me anyway.BUT we all do have that one or two languages that really speaks volumes.In the car that day, it finally clicked for us. David is words of affirmation. I could jokingly complement him and he LOVES it.He gets the cheesiest grin on his face.Me?? receiving gifts. which is hilarious, because I married a ridiculously frugal man. But if WHEN he brought home a Shamrock shake for me the other night unexpectedly...i almost peed my pants of excitement.Here's where I need your thoughts...We understand how to treat the other person to cater to their language...but what about TAKING their language?? Because I enjoy receiving gifts, I LOVE LOVE LOVE giving gifts. My dream someday is to have a decent budget every months just for gifts. But, david hates when I get him gifts.That's not his love language and to him it's more honoring if I save that money.Last night, He complemented me, I rolled my eyes, and he said "take my love language".HMMM.SO what do you think?? How do you handle this in your relationship.Or if you've read the book :) what do you know of it?? Is it more honoring to accept the output of the other persons love language?? Or is it more honoring to NOT give the output??Humpf. I don't know.help!

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